Ok stop, hold up for on second. Do you ever hear the saying, "Don't search for that special someone, let them come to you?" My goodness, I hear it all of the time. As a person who is constantly searching for that proper soul mate, I can't help but hear this statement on a regular basis.
You know what I say to that? BULL
Tonight I had a conversation with a friend who told me just this. I responded by saying: "If I search and let them search, then I have better odds. Think about it...all that talk about 'don't search let them come to you' is all hocus pocus...because either way, someone in the party is always searching." If everyone followed that general rule, then no one would be together.
Think about it for a moment: if a person sits back and waits for someone to find them, won't that take a bit longer? However, if both parties are out searching, wouldn't this increase the odds of finding someone and maybe allow for it to happen faster? So even if that other person is searching, what if they would've simply sat back and waited? But they didn't! They were up and moving. So in turn, if both parties were always in search mode it would increase the chances. Therefore, the phrase "don't search let them come to you" is bologna because there is always someone doing the searching, whether it's you or the other party. If both parties sat back and didn't search, then no one would find each other. So I say, don't listen to that hog wash and go out and find your true love! And don't stop until you find that special someone.
Sitting back will not help you find someone faster. Stopping the search, to me, is simply giving up hope. I refuse to give up...so I continue to search. What would you be missing out on if you simply sat back and waited? You could've passed up the girl/guy of your dreams.
